Imposter Syndrome and Accepting That I Am Enough
When thinking about the past few months, a lot of different words spring to mind: “turbulent,” “difficult,” “enlightening,” “educational.” While all of those fit the bill, I’ve settled on the word “change” to best describe how my recent experiences have affected me....
Using My Toolbox of Self-Help Resources to Find a Fresh Start
The past few months have served as a reminder that life can throw a lot of difficult situations your way at once. In the past, this deluge of disasters would have overwhelmed me. But now, I know I have the tools to deal with each challenge. Note: This post mentions...
How an Ayahuasca Retreat Helped Me Reconnect With Myself
As I shared in October 2021, I’ve officially been diagnosed with the autoimmune disease Sjogren’s syndrome plus four other health conditions. But before I was diagnosed, I struggled to understand what was wrong with my body — and my life. I wasn’t feeling good,...
It’s Time for a Big Change. Actually, Several Big Changes.
As I shared in January, I finished off 2020 by getting tested for Sjögren’s syndrome, an autoimmune disease that affects about 4 million people in the U.S. The results are in and it’s official: I have Sjogren’s as well as four other conditions: celiac disease, pelvic...
Finding the Root Cause
Immediately upon returning from our family’s epic road trip, I went to a rheumatologist to discuss the symptoms I’d experienced before our adventure. Why a rheumatologist? It was the only doctor I hadn’t seen. Over the past decade, I’ve talked to neurologists,...
Finding the Rhythm of the Road
Last year, Carlos and I spent six weeks traveling through Europe and Africa. We brought along our four kids — and our full-time jobs — to combine a family vacation with a working holiday. We had such a great time, we couldn’t wait to do it again this year....
Finding Your Role in the Fight for Racial Equality
When Trayvon Martin was murdered in 2012, it hit way too close to home. In more ways than one. First was the proximity of Trayvon’s murder. The Sanford neighborhood where he was shot is only 30 minutes from my house. But even more jarring was the fact that Trayvon...
The Search for Silver Linings
Last October, which feels like a million years ago, I started seeing a therapist. Something had happened in my personal life that affected me deeply. I was angry and hurt. I just couldn’t stop ruminating on the situation. But then, after about six months of...
5 Lessons I Wish They Taught in Law School
Law schools are changing. When I was a student, we spent our days analyzing cases and learning how to identify potential issues. Even today, when I visit a business, I can easily spot 10 potential problems that could cause liability issues for the company. But now, I...
How to Function as a Highly Sensitive Lawyer
Over the holidays, my friends and I went to an improv show at the local comedy club. One of the skits was called “The Emotional Carpool.” In the first scene, a man hops into the car and he’s ecstatic. He tells the other passengers that he’s on his way to the hospital...